Dear Friends

This one goes out to all my ninjas out there

When I was in high school I had a thing for a girl names Stacy. She was someone that was always on my mind. She was also a really good friend of mine. We ate lunch together, went to the movies, talked about current relationships we were in etc. To make a long story short one day in like January, we were eating lunch. Neither one of us was in a relationship at the time. I took a leap of faith and asked her out. She let out this laugh and said "of course'. We both smiled and were kind of speechless for the rest of lunch.

Skipping ahead we went out for only a month. After that month I mentioned to her that something didn't feel right. She was a little stunned hearing me say that. She asked me what it was. I told her that I felt that we were better being friends then being in a relationship. That didn't end well. We didn't eat lunch together anymore, no more movies, no more talks. The everything we had was over.

A few months went by and we started talking again. Not like we used to but more when something would happen, one of us would comment on it. Sometimes we'd say "hey that reminded me of..." or "kind of like when..." She would visit my lunch table a couple days a week then that little bit became everyday. Then after a while her group was sitting with my group and it was a little like old times again, except in a bigger group. High School was 10 years ago for me. I still talk to her once in a blue moon but we talk.

It takes time to heal. The best thing to do when in a break up is break off contact for a bit. If that situation has you in the same class, or working, or share some group with that individual. The best thing you can do it just say your hello's, and goodbye's. Those situations do suck. Try and be strong and hang in there.